Sexual Fantasies
Fantasies! We all have them. We always have. When we were young, we acted them out. We took our toy soldiers and cars and dolls and whatever and submerged ourselves into our fantasy world. We weren't little kids when we played, at least not in our own minds. We were adults doing adult things: driving cars, commanding armies, having tea parties and setting up house. We weren't self conscious about it. We weren't afraid to do it. We had fun. We enjoyed ourselves. We were happy.
We got older and our fantasies changed. We were sports stars and rock stars and movies stars. We tried to dress the part and walk the walk and talk the talk. Algebra homework and cleaning our rooms weren't part of the fantasy and so we ignored them as best we could. We were cool and in charge and we ruled the world, at least in our minds. That's when sex entered our lives. It was in our reach now and felt so good and it was what we lived for. We tried to live out those fantasies as well in the back seats of our cars or the bedroom when the parents were out. And no matter how successful we were, we always wanted more.
We got older still. We finished school and married and found ourselves living a new life, a life where we thought we could do anything. It was neat to be an adult, to make our own decisions and to sleep beside someone every night. But the novelty wore off and we found that there was nothing new any more. We worried about taxes and 401k's and saving for the kids' education. We worked all day and came home tired to watch the TV all night and each day was the same. We talked about how we would retire and move to Florida and wear ugly clothes and wait to die. What fantasies we still had, we kept stashed away in our minds, letting them sneak out into our daydreams at our desks or at night, in the dark, just before sleep came.
So what happened? Why did we get this way? When did we let the joy slip away? It happened because we let go of our fantasies. We decided that we couldn't pursue them anymore. We were adults and would act like adults and put away the things of childhood. But why? Embarrassment? Laziness? Some unwritten rule that says we cannot act like children and enjoy life?
You can make your life better. Follow your dreams. Give in to your fantasies. What do you want? What would make you happy, excite you, give you pleasure?
It could be something simple: write a book, take up painting, run a marathon. You could go dancing or rock climbing or take pictures of birds or flowers or whatever else catches your fancy. You can do what you want. It's your choice.
Do you want something a little spicy? Get a tattoo or a piercing. It's your body after all. If it pleases you, then why not. No one else has to know about the tattoo or the piercing either if you choose.
Want to try something new in bed? Talk to your mate. Don't say you can't. You love him. You want to spend your life with him, in good times and bad. The worse that can happen is for him to say no. Remember, your mate has fantasies too. You may like them.. The only way to find out is to talk honestly.
No mate? No problem. Want to post a picture on the internet? You don't have to show your face. Only you will know who it is. Sex with a member of the same sex? You've wondered about it, thought about it, pictured it in your mind. The experts say that almost everyone has and a lot have tried it. Don't you want to know what it is like? Don't you want to try it at least once in your life?
Think of all the things that you have ever fantasized about, all the things that have excited you, the sights and the stories that made you wish you were someone else, someone more daring, someone willing to break the rules. Think about the things that you have always wanted, the things that creep into you mind in the dark, the things that make you tingle with excitement. You can do them you know. Let go of your fears. Let go of your embarrassment. Let go of other people's rules. Decide what you want, what will give you pleasure, what will excite you. And go for it.
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